Saturday, March 15, 2014 "Advice for Thinking."

Saturday, March 15, 2014
Week 30
Songs to Remember: Spellbound - TVXQ

       A few weeks ago my teacher asked me who I get my advice from. I replied as honestly as I can and I said that I got my advice from myself. During that time, I wasn't thinking (properly anyways). I was instead over-thinking and that is one of the things I never want to do. And yes, I have talk about over-thinking before and this is a continuation of that.

        I forgot to tell you about the mile I had this week (on Wednesday). I had my best mile time ever, which is 9:01. I was pretty satisfied with myself, knowing that I improved from my previous miles (the times being 9:57, 9:37, and now 9:01). I just thought that I might as well just throw that in here. Now onto the topics.

        So I said that I got my advice from myself. I was over-thinking and in the back of my mind, I knew it wasn't exactly true. I actually get my advice from forums and "Yahoo Answers". Very depressing and weird, I know. It's the truth. That's 'cause I got no one to really express myself to. Except for my newest friend Em, who has shared with me her friendship (and by that I mean talking on Facenovel) and who I now depend on for anything really.

        This part I did get from reading online articles. This guy wrote on this social anxiety article or whatever, talking about how small-talk and have nice little conversations. People have conversations which of have no real purpose, other than just to talk. And how thinking TOO much can really affect how you keep a conversation going.

        First off, people won't actually remember what you said after a day or so and all they'll remember is that you and them talked. Now that's a really good point. People over-think on what they're going to say and that's something that they shouldn't do because it needs to come naturally. Instead of planning what you're going to say, just don't hesitate and just speak. That's it. And that will help make small-talk something sub-conscious and that you'll be able to converse without even knowing it.

        This dude's logic makes me think about the ways how I should apply my talking. Don't hesitate, just do it. My main problem is thinking too much like "Oh if I say this, they'll think I'm too confident. Oh I don't say much, they'll think I'm shy and scared." when in reality, they won't even think twice about the conversation that just happened. I think about conversations that I have like, weeks ago, thinking what I did wrong and how the other person probably hates me.

        To be honest, I am shy. I do hesitate. I get nervous whenever my teacher chooses me to read a paragraph or answer a question. I get nervous when I'm in the spotlight. I act like I'm always in a life or death situation. I infer how other people think of me. I think too much.

        Well, that got me thinking, about how I should stop thinking (too much that is). I hope you all had a nice time thinking about thinking because I sure did. Hopefully my life will be exciting, starting tomorrow. See you tomorrow.